If men’s kindnesses toward women were really only kindnesses, a man would be pleased if another man or woman offered these kindnesses to him. He would be pleased if another man or woman lit his cigarette or pulled out his chair for him. He would be pleased to derive his income, prestige, power and even his identity from his partner. He would take pride in another man’s or woman’s offer to walk him to his car at night. But in fact, “one of the very nasty things that can happen to a man is his being treated or seen as a woman, or womanlike.
(Frye 1983, p. 136).”

Dee L.R. Graham (1995), Loving to Survive

(via quoilecanard)

Yeah!  This reality hit me a few months ago when a teenage boy at work said to another teenage boy, “ladies first!” in order to insult him.  Chivalry is not about respect or kindness.

(via my-sundown)

Wednesday Apr 4 @ 08:24pm with 36,314 notes
🌾🐇🌿 (at Mavericks, California)

🌾🐇🌿 (at Mavericks, California)

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merkkultra:

do men have resting bitch faces as well or do they not have negative characteristics ascribed to them for putting on a neutral rather than a deliriously happy facial expression

Wednesday Apr 4 @ 12:36pm with 39,145 notes

noodzy:

The song is about being violently assaulted and it made me crazy for a few years. I got really paranoid walking around at night and started feeling really unsafe. The song is more about empowering myself physically amongst a masculine power, and the hate of feeling powerless, making light of masculine physical power, making it jovial and non-threatening. I took a typically violent cultural situation and made it pop and happy.”

I love grimes just so much <3

Tuesday Apr 4 @ 08:50pm with 25,799 notes
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toxicgarden:

Finally baby
The truth has been told
Now you tell me that I’m crazy
That’s nothing that I didn’t know

Tuesday Apr 4 @ 06:40pm with 258 notes

meowkait:

television show idea;

men who relentlessly pursue people with inappropriate messages on ok cupid are forced to read everything they’ve said in front of a live studio audience.

Tuesday Apr 4 @ 04:30pm with 126,165 notes
lauracallaghanillustration:

I’ll be selling prints, cards and a *new* Fancy zine at the Crafty Fox Market in Bussey Building, Peckham this Sunday 13th April. I’ll also have reprinted copies of Fancy 1! Details can be found here

lauracallaghanillustration:

I’ll be selling prints, cards and a *new* Fancy zine at the Crafty Fox Market in Bussey Building, Peckham this Sunday 13th April. I’ll also have reprinted copies of Fancy 1! Details can be found here

Tuesday Apr 4 @ 02:20pm with 11,273 notes

pardonmewhileipanic:

blastortoise:

cadburycreamcoolator:

*long deflated sigh*

I’m throwing up

kill me

NO.

Tuesday Apr 4 @ 12:10pm with 9,813 notes

asexual-not-a-sexual:

Shout out to all the people who can’t dress in clothes they want because stores don’t cater to their size or gender, making shopping a miserable and emotionally draining experience.

Monday Apr 4 @ 08:50pm with 22,726 notes

chauvinistsushi:

contraception:

the goal is to love myself so much it offends other people

image

Monday Apr 4 @ 06:40pm with 120,412 notes

smashsurvey:

The fact that Coachella would choose ‘native aesthetics’ to co-opt and reproduce for the amusement of a largely white audience right on the doorstep of the Cabazon Indian Reservation just shows how little they consider NDN’s anything more than fiction or exotic history for the consumption of 20-something hipsters. 

Monday Apr 4 @ 04:30pm with 2,370 notes
Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/pushup/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason  (via mercurieux) Monday Apr 4 @ 02:20pm with 128,056 notes

princesswhatevr:

minorsourceofmayhem:

marinashutup:

in which the actor who plays one of television’s least likable characters is actually super considerate and cool

I just look at his face and feel the hatred.

Which I guess makes him such a great actor.

Fuckin cutie

Monday Apr 4 @ 12:10pm with 336,426 notes